{"product_id":"vragen-22795-me-ex-man-en-ik-zijn-nu-ongeveer-3-jaar-gescheiden-2-kinderen-12-en-14-jaar-oud-een-tijdje-geleden-b","title":"Legal assistance with visitation arrangements and child safety","description":"\u003ch4\u003e Questioner\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\n My ex husband and I have been divorced for about 3 years now. We have 2 children, 12 and 14 years old. \nA while ago I found out that my ex-husband had picked up and dropped off our children several times (Tiel-Oosterhout NB0) without having a driver's license since I knew that I asked him about it but at first he denied it, but then he admitted it himself and told me that he would never do this again, but I have absolutely no faith in that because he has committed several crimes in his past. So I told him that I wanted this described (an addition to the existing parenting plan) \nI told him very clearly that I want to have it on paper what he did and that he will never do this again (as long as he doesn't have a driver's license). But now he says that his lawyer doesn't want to put this on paper because my ex would then commit a crime. Is this allowed or not? Only I also know since then that he has driven in a car several times with our children at home because I am afraid of the fact that he might do it again (something might happen and as a mother I don't want that). But now my ex wants to start summary proceedings, what should I do now (he is committing a crime, not me)\n\n\u003ch4\u003e Lawyer\u003c\/h4\u003e\n\n Your ex-partner shows a questionable lack of sense of responsibility. Unfortunately, the law is written for reasonable thinking people. Moreover, your children will be the ones to suffer if their father and mother have a legal conflict.\n \nThis concerns two areas of law: you have made agreements about the children (civil law) and your ex-partner participates in traffic without a driving license (criminal law).\n\n In principle, you must adhere to agreements made (contact arrangements); you cannot change them unilaterally, unless it cannot reasonably be expected of you to comply with the agreements.\n\n In my opinion, driving a motor vehicle without a driving license indeed poses a serious danger to children.\n\n I recommend the following to you:\n\n Send your ex-partner a registered letter stating that he or she has demonstrably and provably driven a car on several occasions, while he or she did not have a driver's license at the time and your children were also in the car.\n \nYou believe that this criminal and irresponsible behavior poses a serious danger to your children and that, on that basis, it cannot reasonably be expected of you to continue to comply with the existing contact arrangements.\n\n You therefore suspend the contact arrangement and offer him to try to find a solution to the problem that arose through his fault, together with a mediator. The costs of this procedure are for his account.\n\n State in the letter that if he proceeds with the summary proceedings, you will defend yourself by appealing to the safety of the children and that in that case you will also consider filing a criminal complaint against him.\n\n If the summary proceedings do indeed go ahead, you will have to defend yourself. I advise you to consult a lawyer for this. You may be eligible for subsidized legal aid.\n\n","brand":"Rechtswinkel.nl","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":55015440253277,"sku":"","price":0.0,"currency_code":"EUR","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.rechtswinkel.nl\/en\/products\/vragen-22795-me-ex-man-en-ik-zijn-nu-ongeveer-3-jaar-gescheiden-2-kinderen-12-en-14-jaar-oud-een-tijdje-geleden-b","provider":"Rechtswinkel.nl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}