Support for parents: Your rights and visitation arrangements


Questioner

Ir/Madam, I would like advice on the following matters. My 2 children, daughter 9 years old and son 6 years old, have been living with their father for 1.5 years. I had problems and could not take good care of the children. I voluntarily let them live with their father (without mediation of a lawyer or judge). Now the communication between their father and me is not smooth, this goes more through the girlfriend of the father. I see both children every 3 weeks and during the holidays as long as I keep to their conditions. I have been living in Germany for almost a year now. It is about a 3 hour drive from the children. I have a stable living environment there and a relationship. I work to earn some money, because I have to pick up the children and bring them home. I have not given up my authority or guardianship. Now my question is what are my rights as a mother. Like how often I am allowed to call them, see. I feel like I am being treated unfairly under their conditions. Like only being allowed to call them at 6:15 pm every Friday. I am allowed to have the children during the holidays, only if I have picked up and dropped off the children the weekend before. I have to drive back and forth myself, without any financial help from the father. Or that he might drive to meet me. I only communicate with my ex's new girlfriend, and not with my ex herself. I hope you can advise me further. Kind regards,

Lawyer

You see your children very little. Most 'access arrangements' take place more regularly. If you want to call and/or see the children more often, you could hire a lawyer who can assist you in achieving this. Your ex does not seem very willing, but it is possible that he will respond positively if he receives a letter from a lawyer in which your wishes are explained. If that is not the case, legal proceedings will have to be started in which more access can be requested as well as a change in the arrangement for picking up and dropping off. If you wish, you can contact me.

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