How do I change my care arrangements?

Questioner

I split up with my daughter's father 4 years ago. We have always had a reasonably good arrangement, but for a few months now my daughter (8 years old) has been saying that she wants to be with her father less and with me more. He doesn't want to know anything about it and it is also not up for discussion. What is the best way to approach this? I was also wondering if alimony is mandatory? We have not been married, but he has recognized my daughter. I have never asked for alimony, but I may want to do so if I am entitled to it. I work 3 days a week myself, he works full-time.

Lawyer

Approaching a mediator together seems to me to be the best solution at first. Child support is mandatory if one of the two does not contribute to the costs of care and maintenance of your daughter according to his or her ability. Furthermore, you can submit the matter to the court through a lawyer. The court can, at the request of the parents with parental authority or one of them according to art. 1:253a BW in conjunction with art. 1:377e BW, decide to change a care arrangement if the circumstances have changed or if the decision was made on the basis of incorrect or incomplete information.