Give father of children insight into the amount of allowances?

Questioner

I am a mother of 3 children aged 6, 4 and 3. My father and I have been separated for 1.5 years. During that time, I mainly took care of the children and they went to their father for 1 day one week and 2 days the next. My children go to daycare 2 days a week, for which we had agreed that he would pay €300 in child support, so that I could pay for the daycare. I recently asked him if he could take the children 2 more days a month. He responded by stating that contact had to be divided 50/50 immediately and that he wanted to have insight into what allowances I receive and what the costs are for the children. Even though I know that I receive allowances based on the calculation of my income and the amount of the daycare costs, I think it is an invasion of my privacy that he knows how much I receive and have to pay, while I only asked for a contribution for his children. So my question is, am I obliged to give him insight into the allowances I receive for my children?

Lawyer

You do not have to provide your ex-partner with insight into what you spend the alimony money on. If your ex-partner has more care for the children, this is a change to have the alimony recalculated. If you cannot agree on an amount together, it is advisable to have a recalculation made. In principle, your ex-partner can also view the amount of child benefit and child-related budget on the website of the implementing agencies. I can help you further with making a calculation or give advice on the visitation arrangement. Feel free to contact me via 0800 822 4433 or send an e-mail to info@echtscheidingswinkel.nl if we can help you further.