No alimony and discussion about vacation with ex

Questioner

I have an 8-year-old son with my ex-partner. The court has decided that my ex-partner must pay monthly alimony, but he refuses to do so. I am fed up now and want to take action so that my ex will pay the alimony. My ex has not paid alimony for a year now. I've talked to him about it many times, but he ignores it. My ex booked a holiday together with his girlfriend. He sends me an app message in which he indicates that our son has to stay with me during that period because he is going on holiday with his girlfriend. He has not discussed anything with me. At the end of the month I also want to go on holiday and ask my ex if our son can stay with him during that period, but he refuses. I want to make a fixed agreement for the holiday days. How can I best arrange all this?

Lawyer

It is understandable that you are frustrated by the lack of child support payments and the lack of communication with your ex-partner about your son's vacation plans. Here are some steps you can consider to best manage this situation: Contact a lawyer: If your ex-partner refuses to pay alimony, it is wise to seek legal advice. A lawyer can help you take the right steps to collect the alimony arrears and ensure that payments are made regularly. Go back to court: If your ex-spouse refuses to pay child support despite repeated requests, you may want to consider going back to court to address the issue. A judge can order coercive measures to ensure that child support is paid, such as garnishing wages or assets. Vacation Schedule: To avoid any issues regarding vacation scheduling, it is best to create a formal vacation schedule and have it approved by the court. This can prevent one parent from making unilateral decisions about vacation scheduling without consulting the other parent. Communication with your ex-partner: Try to remain open to communication with your ex-partner, even if it is difficult. If you can talk to him about your concerns and wishes regarding your son, this can sometimes lead to a solution without the intervention of the court. Think of your child's best interests: Always keep your son's best interests in mind. A stable and predictable environment is crucial to his well-being. Try to find a solution that is in his best interests as well as yours and your ex-partner's. It is important to protect your son's rights and ensure that his needs are met, including the payment of alimony and the establishment of a clear vacation arrangement. Please contact 040 - 2350422 or send an email to info@ecthscheidingswinkel.nl for your questions or to schedule a completely free intake interview.