Informing your ex about the arrival of a new child?

Questioner

I have split up with the biological father of my 9 year old son. He has recognition and 5 years ago he had a visitation arrangement. He actually still has this under the condition that he will seek help because of an incident with his son. I keep him informed weekly but now I have been together with another man for almost 10 years and I am having a child with him. And my son is becoming a big brother, so to speak. Do I have to inform my ex of this from a legal point of view?

Lawyer

Legally, you cannot be obliged to share this news with your ex-partner, but it is advisable to tell this news. In some cases, it may be necessary to inform the father of your child of the arrival of a new child in the family, especially if this could affect the existing contact arrangements or situation with the older child. This may also depend on the agreements that have already been laid down in a possible court decision, such as a contact arrangement or parental authority. Furthermore, it may be the case that your ex-partner hears about it from someone else. In this case, you will have to make an assessment yourself as to whether it is necessary to inform your ex-partner about your pregnancy.

Questioner

Good afternoon, Thank you for your answer. Father has no authority. Father has caused quite a nervous pregnancy when I was pregnant with his child. That is why I also ask to what extent this is wise and necessary. Through the judge, it was further agreed that the gentleman would have a visitation arrangement at my home and would also seek guidance. Because the gentleman is not capable of raising a child. I will have to report this regarding the development of my son, which is what is necessary regarding my son. The gentleman has not had a visitation arrangement for a few years, this in consultation with several people in connection with the hitting of my son. I then asked to seek urgent guidance before the visitation arrangement is continued. Several parties supported this. To date, the gentleman has not taken a single step. I give him an update every week on the development and/or special circumstances, this is my obligation to the father of my eldest son.