Advice on legal questions regarding address registration

Questioner

Day, My ex-husband asks my twenty-year-old eldest son, who lives with us, to deregister from the GBA and register in the GBA of his place of residence in order to pretend that our son lives there or at least lives there part of the week. He asks this of my son because he wants to qualify for a reimbursement of the study costs that his foreign girlfriend and expat (with whom he has entered into a registered partnership) can use for her own children. Her registered partner (my ex) can also do this provided that his child lives at his and her address. My ex-husband puts both my son and me under a lot of pressure. He earns more than I do and threatens to stop contributing to both my son and me's studies if we do not cooperate in this. (He pays for my son's studies, outside the alimony arrangement). My son goes on vacation with his father and visits him about once every two or three months but never lives there. Not even on weekends. I am afraid that this is illegal and fraudulent. My ex-husband says 'everyone does this' and that the government does not check this and that it is certainly not illegal. However, when I ask him to give me insight into the arrangement, he flatly refuses under the guise that it is 'private. That this is something between his son and him' (but we in my house). That makes me doubt again whether this is all legal. Moreover, the tax return is also not correct anymore? The name and address details are then incorrect. Also general practitioners, hospitals, schools, weekend jobs etc. etc. all have the wrong addresses of my son.

Lawyer

Your son should not want to move his address for the reasons stated, also because there are indeed risks associated with registering at a different address. (You have to register where you actually live). I also do not think that the father realizes that he may be entitled to less allowance, and there is no more deduction of maintenance possible for the remaining terms of 2014, to name but one.