Arranging co-parenting? Get free advice!

Questioner

I am a divorced single man and my question is. I would like to know how and what I can do to obtain co-parenthood for my children. I work in shifts and initially agreed with my ex-wife that our children would have their main residence with her because I had to live outside the city with family in my free weekends because of the divorce and I would have the children in my free weekends. Now I have been living in Amsterdam since November 2013 and have asked several times to obtain co-parenthood, my ex-wife refuses to give in and comes up with the most insane answers. .I would be incapable, it is too much hassle for the children etc. etc. I am only allowed to see them on the weekends and otherwise I have to get on my knees for it. My children are 16 and 12 years old and would like to be with me more, so even if I have 2 or 3 days off during the week, they would like to come over. Especially my 12 year old son has a lot of trouble with this and so do I.. The communication about the children is pretty good but when it comes to co-parenting I get a blank.. The only reason I can think of is that my ex does not want to lose the alimony money. I hope you can help me further

Lawyer

In a custody procedure at the court, you can request, by using a lawyer, a change in the current contact arrangement so that there will be a co-parenting arrangement in the future. If you wish, I can assist you in this.

Lawyer

You could also suggest to your ex to go to mediation together. An independent and impartial mediator will then work with you and your ex to find a solution. In general, this is less drastic than going to court. Mediation can also save time and money.