Assistance with legal questions about underage relationships

Questioner

After finding out several times that our daughter has a secret relationship with an adult 33. (She also had to not tell us at first because we would get angry) something that we have indicated each time not to accept. Because there are several things that are ethically unacceptable. And our daughter is 17 and has quite a backpack, very naive and impressionable. Since this relationship she has been changing. From a good, actually perfect child to unmanageable, lying and manipulative. She is not at home or with friends at the moment. However, we are shadowing her phone because we really have the idea that more is happening than normal and her behavior is at odds with who she was. I am not proud of this because I actually know that this is not possible, but as a parent I feel I have to protect her. Now it turns out that he deliberately turns her against us. Among other things, by asking every time since she left home whether we have had contact with her. That it is good that we are afraid. That we are cheap and worthless. That we will perish. And laugh about it. Swear to God that we are the lowest people. That it is good that she is now with friends. And even more inflammatory remarks. Youth care is now mediating that she can return. Because she had indicated that this was not possible. And was looking for some kind of room training. Youth care agrees with us, however, and she can simply come home. If necessary, under supervision. Nothing wrong with that. It is good that help would come. Since it cannot continue like this. However, can I start something legal against him with this information or is this considered illegal evidence? Can I show this to youth care? They are already supporting us but this is fairly recent information since they had contact via another line before. I wouldn't know how else to get evidence because he is very cunning and has undermined our authority several times. She sees nothing because she is totally in love. Completely under his spell. And not amenable to reason. He has made her believe that they are going to get married in the future and have children.

Lawyer

A relationship in itself is not a criminal offense between a minor over 16 with an adult. Only when sexual acts are performed is there a criminal offense. And can something be done about the relationship. It is also important to ensure that evidence against him is brought to the table, and to strengthen your position.