Legal assistance with parenting plans and alimony

Questioner

Dear, Last week I received a letter from my ex-wife's lawyer. It states that my ex-wife wants to change the parenting plan. She wants to change days that are already fixed in the parenting plan that has already been drawn up, and to her advantage. She indicates that she wants our 4-year-old daughter with her more days. The lawyer also indicates that my ex-wife wants to receive alimony and that she has decided to transfer our daughter, who has just started at her new school, to another school. My ex-wife recently started living together and moved to a nearby village for this purpose. I myself live with my girlfriend and her two children. We are also expecting our first child together. This is why I think it is in the interest of my daughter that she spends an equal amount of time in both families. So I see absolutely no reason to change the plan. I also do not like paying alimony, given the fact that we both have an equal amount of days with our daughter. I do agree to send our daughter to another school, although I am not entirely convinced that this is in her best interest. I have always tried to keep matters concerning our daughter open to discussion and to solve them together. Unfortunately, my ex-wife still finds it necessary to hire a lawyer. What I am currently asking myself is the following: 1. How big is the chance that I will lose this case? 2. If this matter cannot be resolved by mutual agreement and a judge must intervene, what will the judge look for? What considerations will be made? 3. Is it wise to respond to the lawyer myself? This is because I personally do not consider it necessary to pay high lawyer fees at this time and I cannot do so either. As you I would really like to know where I stand and what I can do best. Hope to hear from you soon. Kind regards

Lawyer

Dear questioner, You are now asking to answer a number of questions that concern the total package that a parenting plan entails. These are not questions that are easy to answer. This concerns the content of the documents and the relationships and circumstances of the case. In fact, you simply have to go to a lawyer, especially now that your ex has hired a lawyer. To briefly answer your questions: 1) the case is divided into a few subcases, it does not mean that you win or lose them all; a combination will also be possible. In these types of cases a good lawyer never indicates what your chances of winning are. That is simply too difficult to estimate in advance. 2) Circumstances of the case, the interests of the child, the situation on the spot, the reason why the parenting plan cannot continue on this basis, etc. etc. 3) see above You can find a lawyer via the Legal Helpdesk 0900-8020