I don't want to give my ex authority

Questioner

My ex and I broke up a few months ago. This is because he has a weed addiction. I never gave him parental authority because I think that in his position he cannot make decisions about our child. However, he is otherwise sweet and crazy about our daughter and he sees her on Wednesdays and every other weekend. He does not agree and also wants parental authority because he is afraid that I will move abroad with our child because my family lives there, I myself have already made it clear to him that I would never do this and want to stay in the Netherlands. He thinks that he also has the right to make decisions, that is why he wants to fight this. My question now is does this make sense or do I have no choice and should I still give him parental authority. We still talk normally with each other, but only when it concerns our child. We also have not yet put a visitation arrangement on paper and he does not pay alimony.

Lawyer

Good afternoon, The following standard applies to the question of whether the request for joint custody should be granted: If the request aims to charge the parents with joint custody and the other parent with joint custody does not agree, the request will only be rejected if: a. there is an unacceptable risk that the child would become trapped or lost between the parents and it cannot be expected that this would improve sufficiently in the foreseeable future, or b. rejection is otherwise necessary in the interests of the child. The starting point is joint custody, unless grounds a. or b. apply. If you would like to discuss your situation in more detail in order to assess whether you wish to defend yourself, you can contact me by telephone.