Rights of father without authority

Questioner

My partner and I have decided to end our relationship and have a 5-month-old baby. Now it is the case that he has acknowledged his child but has no authority over it. Now we want to make agreements together about how it can look as good as possible for us without having to go to court, but if we cannot reach an agreement together then it has to be done but we would rather prevent it. Now the father wants to take him once a week to family 300 km away without me the mother. I absolutely do not want to deprive him and his family (who go against all my rules regarding upbringing and keep interfering) of anything but I do not feel comfortable with this. In 5 months he has given a bottle 2x and changed a diaper 3x. He has never gotten up at night and he also sleeps in another bedroom because he wants to sleep and rest. Am I obliged to give my child to him? He does not pay alimony and also has no authority.

Lawyer

You are not obliged to give your baby away. However, the father (even without having authority or paying alimony) has the right to see the baby and have contact with him. I doubt whether 300 km away is immediately useful for that. That is a long journey with a small child who will have to be fed and changed regularly. Perhaps you can come to other agreements together? If that does not work, you could also submit a request to the court yourself to obtain a more pleasant contact arrangement. Incidentally, you do not have to go to court immediately, but could also try to come to certain agreements with the help of a mediator or lawyer. If you wish, you can contact us.