Distribution of gifts to grandchildren?

Questioner

My mother wants to give her grandchildren a sum of money. My brother has 2 children and I have 3 children. Now my brother says that the gift should be divided by two (two families) and that it will then be divided among the grandchildren. So suppose my mother gives 1000 euros, then 500 euros goes to his children, they each get 250 euros and my children have to divide 500 euros between the three of them. I disagree with that because I think all grandchildren are equal. That's how he wants it to happen with the inheritance. My mother is starting to get demented and believes in everything my brother. Now my question is what is customary?

Lawyer

The distribution of gifts to grandchildren can be done in a number of ways, and what is considered "customary" can vary depending on cultural norms and family agreements. In general, however, there are two approaches that are often used: the per-stirpes method and the per-capita method. Per stirpes (by branches): Under this approach, the gift amount is divided among the branches of the family, with each branch receiving equal shares. In your case, you and your brother would each receive half, and within each branch, the amount would be divided among the grandchildren. This means that your brother's children and your children would receive an equal share of the gift. Per capita (by heads): In this method, the gift amount is divided among the individual grandchildren, without making a distinction between branches or families. In your case, all grandchildren, regardless of the number in each family, would receive an equal share of the gift. It is important to remember that these are only general approximations and that the final decision will depend on your mother and what she wants to do. If she is in the early stages of dementia, it may be wise to seek legal advice to ensure that her wishes are recorded correctly and that there are no misunderstandings. A solicitor or legal expert can help you draw up a gift plan that meets your family’s needs and takes into account the interests of everyone involved.

Questioner

Ok thank you very much for the answer, it is clear